Why getting things over with is a terrible way to live life


We've all awoken early in the morning unmotivated for the day.  

Maybe you have a long day of work ahead of you. Or, you did not prepare for the exam you must take. Or, you have your family member's funeral to attend.

In these instances, a standard response might be to hope to 'fast-forward' through these events and get them over-with.

And who can blame you? These are the days we least look forward to and make life difficult, nerve-racking, and sad.

However, regardless of the reason that you're not ready to seize the day, you have two main choices on how to attack each situation.

First, you could decide to approach these events with an irritated and negative mindset.

This negative mindset could lead to (1) you being distant from others experiencing the same event; (2) you entering a mindless and boring state by dawdling on your phone or ignoring those around you; (3) you incessantly complaining.

Keep in mind Dale Carnegie said that we should never criticize, condemn, or complain!

Or, second, you could choose to utilize an optimistic mindset.

At work, your 'can-do attitude' could propel you to tackle your backlog of deliverables in rapid succession, exceeding your boss's expectations. 

At a funeral, this approach could lead you to speak with the family members about the positive moments you had with the newly deceased loved one. Maybe your genuinely warm words put a smile on those who are grieving.

For your test, even a positive mindset won't help you perform better. Sorry! But maybe, your newfound optimism could inspire you to communicate with the professor and ask for better ways to understand the information.

Either way, you messed this one up…But good news, bad test scores are recoverable if you channel your energy towards constant learning and curiosity.

You are responsible for your life. The more life events you ‘get things over-with’, the more your life is wasted on being miserable and meaningless.

As Viktor Frankl said:

"Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather must recognize that it is he who is asked. In a word, each man is questioned by life; and he can only answer to life by answering for his own life; to life he can only respond by being responsible." 

A mental tweak from pessimism to optimism would increase the probability that you live a meaningful life.

So don't, for the (meaningful) life of you, desire to 'get things over-with.'